In a wedding ceremony, phrases written above is one of the most common statements we heard from an officiating minister to a couple standing or kneeling down in front of him. Whatever happens, for better and for worst, in richer and poorer, they promise they would stay together. At this point of time, we can say it is easier said than done because at this moment the couple is at the midst of their happiness and excitement on their wedding day.
Nowadays, though there are some countries legalized divorce, lots of couple separated most likely the reason is financial scarcity. Some even committed suicide - the worst is some of them include their family members next to themselves. Most common reason is life's economic problem. The couple or one of them who could not anymore sustain the scarcity may forgot what they had promised during their wedding day - they would stay together "...for better and for worst..".
INFEDELITY
If the reason for family disbandment due to one's infidelities, most often than not, the bottom line is due to economic problem of the family. Usually, the wife is always the victim due to her vulnerability of the temptations especially if the woman has good personality and not used of having financial problems. They can afford to leave their family to escape the hardships and trials they encountered and go with someone else in exchange of her family or children's consequences without a mother.
FERRIES WHEEL-LIKE
If you look and think about what really life is, it's simple. It's as if you're riding on a ferries wheel in a carnival. There are sometimes you stop at the top likewise at the bottom. It is a matter of how long will you stay at the top or at the bottom. Not all times we always taste the sweetness of success, happiness and all blessings, but we must also learn to accept and admit the agony of defeat, failures, and all kinds of life's trial.
If you're a God-fearing man with your fervent prayer to Him, match it with your resourcefulness in finding ways to solve whatever problem - obviously you can proudly survive. Hardships and all kinds of trials are considered life's enemy of surviving. If the whole family wins in the midst of their struggle, this could make them stronger whenever there will be another problem comes. One common factors of achieving life's success are patience, endurance and resourcefulness.
COWARDNESS
Anyone who runs from his/her problem is coward. If one of the couple leaves his/her family's obligation because of their scarcity then one of the couple is coward and irresponsible parent. Yes, momentarily - you can hide and maybe you can feel a little life's comfort but - you would be running again whenever there'll be another that would comes again. It is just because you are used of running - used of being coward.
THE QUITER NEVER WINS AS THE WINNER NEVER QUITS
There's a saying that goes, " the only way to solve the problem is to face the problem itself". Consider whatever problems you would have as your mortal enemy, and you must fight for it to win. Fight to win and survive because a” quitter never wins as a winner never quits”. How nice it would be for a family to feel the sweetness of success in spite of all heavy trials that created havocs on their lives - and yet they are still intact.
DON'T LOST HOPE
While there is still life, there is still hope.
Do you think are you the only one in this world who has plenty of heavy problems? Are all people in the status of scarcity just kill themselves for this reason? If all families who have lots of heavy problems have no more chance of surviving I think half of our population right now are already gone - it is because, there are lots of families who belong to less fortunate one - against the rich one.
We knew that life's scarcity starts from less fortunate families. Should everyone know only how to handle and to accept failures and sorrows in lives no families would be broken, no individual would commit suicide. Should everyone knows only how to be patient always and keeps on asking help from his Supreme Creator, with enthusiasm in finding ways to survive - no families would be broke up but rather all would win and survive.
WHY IS THIS WRITTEN?
As an author of this article, my purpose of sharing this - is to encourage those people especially to all heads of the family who are still fighting to survive on their life's scarcity - to be patient with hope and never cease finding right ways and means to win this common enemy of the family. Honestly, I am also fighting recently to survive scarcity.
Indeed, you don't give a damn on my kind of problems. What I would like here to share and to prove is - we (with my wife) are still clinging hardly on what we had promised on the day that we were wed - "....in richer and in poorer, for better for worst, in sickness and in health.." we hold on together.
Honestly, there were lot of times we almost give up everything, nowhere to go for help but we keep on holding on.
My wife could leave me alone if she would to save herself of the crisis we had, but she never did. Most often, whenever we feel depressed and pitied on ourselves we just kneel down and pray with our tears falling down. Our only source of strength is the spiritual power we feel every time we pray and ask for heavenly guidance to survive each day of fighting on our survival. In this way, we strongly believe that sooner or later we can survive this crisis we have in our life recently. How soon? It would just a matter of patience and endurance.
If “there's a calm before a storm”, I firmly sure that “there would be sunshine after the storm. If by chance we lost our lives in combating our problems, at least we did it fairly. We never did anything unlawful just to survive but instead we keep our promise on the day that we were entwined in the eyes of our God. If one of us perishes on our survival, we still fulfill what we said and promised on the same day we were wed, ",,,'til death do us part.."
Note:
This article is heartily dedicated to my wife who never quits in spite of all our trials and burden in our life, instead, she stands hand in hand with me that inspired me to go on until we finally reach the end with flying colors of winning.
ravenous
